It’s Always Someone Else’s Fault
Read Gen 3:6-12
Anytime I hear someone blaming someone else, this is what I automatically think about “it’s always someone else’s fault”.
Genesis 3 shows us as soon as humanity was exposed to sin, we became shameful; and this shame produced blame. We do not like to admit fault or being wrong about decisions in our life.
How often do you find yourself in one of these scenarios?
Well if my boss wasn’t such a jerk, I’d be more respectful
Well if my spouse would listen, I’d have better communication
Well if that person wasn’t so rude to me than I wouldn’t have been so rude back
Well if the other people at church would just been a little more friendly I would keep going
It’s always someone else’s fault
These are small things but can still make a big impact in our life. What about the bigger issues where we place blame such as having insecurities from previous verbal abuse; having parenting issues because you didn’t have a father or mother at home; not having a fair shot at life because of where you were born. There are so many pressing issues that we refuse to allow God to heal because we blame others for who we are or where we are in life.
You can’t help what happens most of the time... life happens to all of us — but you can control how you respond.
Stop the blame game — you control you.
“Control the Controllable” - Coach J. Gregg
Blaming others. Why?
We were created to be fully known & fully loved. But sin & shame causes us to think we can’t be fully loved when we are fully known. So shame lies and says, “it’s not me”; “it can’t be my fault”. So we reject the truth about ourselves and project it onto someone else.
Blame is a rejection of responsibility.
Responsibility is the ability to take ownership of your responses.
Blame is a “blinder”
Blame is a “binder”
Blame is a “bender”
Blame – blinds you from seeing truth; binds you from experiencing freedom; & bends you from going in the right direction.
That’s the bad news = GUILT; but here’s the good news = GRACE.
Grace is receiving love & forgiveness when we don’t deserve it.
2 Corinthians 9:8: “God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.”
2 Corinthians 12:9-10 — “His grace is sufficient…” - you don’t need anything else.
Desire & Disobedience produced Sin & Shame
- but -
Goodness & Grace offers us Forgiveness & Freedom
Sin turned joy into judgment but Jesus turned judgment into joy. “For the joy set before Him, He endured the cross...”
Because of Jesus, there is no more blame; because of Jesus, there is no more shame.
Jesus has given you; Jesus has given all of us an opportunity for a new life.
2 Timothy 1:9 — says that God has called us to live a life that is holy because of His grace.
Galatians 6:5 - We are each responsible for our own conduct.
If you can’t “take” responsibility, God will not “give” you responsibility.
Colossians tells us — We must clothe ourselves in grace. This is how we defeat shame. Plus, just like with Adam & Eve, God continues to pursue us even in our mistakes.
God pursues you
God covers you — because
God loves you
If we truly believed what Jesus did for us on the cross, then we should be able to easily remove the shame from our lives; by stop blaming others and start embracing God’s love.